
Solo Toys to Practice Some Self-Love

Mini Vibe

Multi Play

Wand Massagers
by Jacee Niblett -
There’s a lot of misinformation out there about masturbation—what I like to call solo sex. Myths abound: it’s often seen as something only for single folks, there’s talk of vibrators “desensitizing” your genitals, and some even go as far as labeling solo sex in relationships as a form of cheating. Others simply drape this perfectly natural act in layers of shame.
But the real tragedy of these myths is that they can make us feel like masturbation somehow undermines, weakens, or otherwise threatens our intimate partner relationships. In truth, masturbation is a beautiful and valid expression of one’s sexuality. Far from harming intimacy, it can actually deepen it by helping us connect more authentically with ourselves—a gift that naturally enriches our relationships with others.
So let’s put the stigma around solo sex to rest and instead celebrate it as a powerful and valid form of self-expression. Read on to discover some fantastic toys to elevate your solo adventures!
Wanting something small and discreet? A mini vibrator, while small in size, can provide large amounts of pleasure. You have the benefit of being compact, so it’s perfect if you’re a frequent traveler, or just someone who wants to keep your personal solo sex experiences extra private. The Bodywand Mini Vibes Tip is a great example, with its optimal tapered shape and silky smooth silicone you get a quality vibe in a small package.
Elevate your experiences with peace of mind, and easy frequency!
Variety is the spice of solo sex, so using a toy with lots of options can be ideal - especially if you’re on an exploration journey and looking to experiment with different sensations. A g-spot vibe can be a great pick for this because you can use it efficiently either externally or internally. Or consider this triple action toy from Nu Sensuelle that offers suction, flicking, and thrusting all in one toy.
Toys with this level of variety offer endless possibilities of fun and pleasure in your solo sex experiences!
I’m a huge proponent of wand vibrators when it comes to solo sex, because to me they are just the epitome of indulging in your body. They basically feel good anywhere on your body - shoulders, back, neck and everywhere else. They usually have long, generous handles that allow you to really have variety and freedom in moving it around yourself - plus, they typically have the strongest motors out of all other vibrating toys.
They are really just the poster child for self love!
Embracing solo sex as a natural and fulfilling aspect of your sexual self can be a powerful step toward deeper self-connection and greater intimacy with others. The toys we’ve explored here are just a few ways to elevate those solo experiences, adding fun, variety, and new sensations to your routine. Remember, there’s no “right” way to enjoy solo sex—what matters most is finding what feels good for you and allowing yourself to explore without guilt or judgment.
So whether you’re single or partnered, make time to celebrate your sexuality, nurture your desires, and invest in the pleasure that only you can give yourself.