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3 Questions to Ask Yourself When Buying a New Sex Toy

Shopping for a new toy can be a bit daunting, right? There’s so many different options, and if you’re not fully on the up about what’s new on the market , you might take a quick look at your options and find yourself thinking- Wait, what does this do? With rows of different colors and shapes and motors, it can be hard to determine exactly what is going to work best for you.

Maybe you’ve been using the same bullet vibe for the last few years and you’re looking for an upgrade. Maybe the dildo you have is just not cutting it for you and you want something that truly gets the job done. Or maybe, this is going to be your first toy ever and you’re just not sure where to start.

No matter where you’re at on your journey, you’re in the right place! If you’re ready to bring a new toy into your life but aren’t sure how to choose, I’ve got you covered. Just ask yourself these three questions to narrow down what’s perfect for you.

Motorized or manual?

First, consider if you want your toy to handle the work for you - if you want to be in the driver’s seat. A motorized toy and a non motorized toy will give you different experiences, each with their own benefits and drawbacks. Here’s a few reasons why you might like either choice.

A motorized toy will give you a pretty sensation-heavy experience. It might vibrate, rotate, thrust, spin, or suck. But it’s always going to give you a unique sensation that hopefully, you and your body will enjoy. The user usually doesn’t have to do much but place the toy and let it do its thing. If you like the sensation offered by motorized toys, this might be the pick for you.

A non motorized toy lets you run the show. Whether it’s a dildo, butt plug, stroker, or any other static toy - it’s not going to give you that dynamic sensation, but rather it gives you pressure or friction. If this is more your style, definitely consider going with a manual option!

Discreet or loud and proud?

Considering logistics isn’t always fun or sexy, but it can be important when shopping for a new toy. How often will you feel comfortable enough to use this new addition to the bedroom if you’re in a situation where you need quiet to feel comfy? If this sounds like you, check out the volume of a toy before you buy - there are definitely some that are louder than others! Something like a plug-in wand might not be discreet enough for you, but a bullet vibe is in perfect range.

Size can be a factor too. Do you have the space to safely store a bigger toy, or do you need something that can easily fit in a nightstand? Considering these logistics will make you feel more comfortable and confident in your choice.

Power or sensitivity?

Finally, if you’re going with a motorized toy you’ll want to consider the power level. How sensitive is your body? Some people find the strength of a vibrator to be too much, others need a high intensity to get anywhere. Everybody is different, and that’s why checking out a toy’s intensity or power is so important before you buy.

You can keep in mind that toys with rechargeable or plug in motors are going to be more powerful in general than battery operated toys - it’s always a good idea to “test it out” in stores to get a real idea of a toy’s power.

At the end of the day, finding the right toy is all about tuning into you—your needs, your preferences, and what brings you the most joy and connection. Whether you’re all about the buzz of a powerhouse motor or the simplicity of an maula option, whether you want something that’s a sneaky little secret or a bold centerpiece for your nightstand, there’s a perfect fit out there waiting for you.

So go ahead, explore, experiment, and let yourself have fun with it—because your pleasure is 100% worth it.