Sometimes the root of this issue is redundancy. When you have a sexual routine, whether that’s with a partner or solo - we can get sexually bored without even realizing it. Which leads to a wandering mind and less presence in the moment. The sexiest thing to our brains is novelty - so try adding a new sensation to your experiences and see if your mind brings more focus to that sensation. You can do this with a new position, a new environment or a new toy that creates a sensation you haven’t experienced before. Air pulsation is relatively new - and if you’re seasoned with a vibrator, this might be the answer for you!

Air pulsation gently strokes and pulses the clitoris creating a lovely cupping sensation on an extremely sensitive region of the body. Some people describe it as similar to oral sex, but in my opinion - it is an entirely separate feeling unlike oral or a vibrator.

If you have a vulva and struggle with staying present during sex - try an air pulsation and see how it works for you!

BDSM/Kink is such a beautiful tool to gain more access to your body and quiet the racing thoughts during sex. This realm of sexual practice allows you to play, explore and experience in a much broader and more expansive way. You can try adding restraints, role-play or impact play - all things that will aid in bringing you into your body and out of your head. These things often bring your mind into a different place - and they have a sneaky way of bringing your awareness and focus to what is happening in the moment.

We have a wide selection of BDSM and kink products in store, if you want to add some toys and tools to this journey!