The Variable World of Dildos: What to Look For

The Variable World of Dildos: What to Look For

by Jacee Niblett - May 19, 2025

Welcome to the wonderfully wide world of dildos—where there’s truly something for everyone, and no two journeys look exactly the same. With so many shapes, sizes, materials, and features to choose from, shopping for a dildo can feel a bit like entering a new universe. It’s exciting, a little overwhelming, and full of possibilities.

But the truth is, the “best” dildo isn’t about what’s trending or what works for someone else—it’s about what feels good and right for you. Depending on your needs, you might be drawn to sleek and simple or textured and bold, firm or flexible, realistic or abstract. There’s no one-size-fits-all solution. Your perfect toy will depend on your body, your preferences, and how you like to play.

So this week, let’s walk through the key things to look for—from materials and dimensions to design details and compatibility—so you can navigate this world with confidence and find the dildo that fits you just right.

Context

When shopping for a new dildo, it’s important to consider how you want to use the toy. While the basic function is penetration for these products, there’s lots of different ways to utilize them. Are you going to use it for partner play or solo play? Do you want it to fit into a harness or stick to a mirror? Is it going to be used for anal penetration or vaginal penetration?

This information isn’t meant to limit you - because you can get really creative and most toys are more versatile than you might think -But it’s true that different dildos work better for different contexts. Take the Double Dong by Calexotics for example - its shape is especially designed to be used for partnered play, and won’t work that well for solo play or anal penetration. What it will work well for is shared penetration between two vulva owners, though!

Considering the function of your toy and how you want to play or explore with it will give you excellent insight into which toy works best for you.

Silicone Double Dong AC/DC Dong

Safety

As always, you’ll also want to consider safety and hygiene when shopping for this kind of toy. For dildos - safety might look like making sure you have a flared base before using it for anal penetration. It might also mean suction-cupping the toy to a safe and secure surface, or using adequate lube.

Speaking of lube, you’ll want to consider the material and what lubes are compatible with it. The material is also an important consideration for safety and hygiene - making sure your toy is made of a non-porous material like silicone or glass can make it much easier to keep clean.

Excitement staff members are an excellent resource if you’re ever unsure about materials, lube compatibility or best practices. And don’t forget to pick up a toy cleaner!

Swiss Navy Toy & Body Cleaner

Fun

Arguably the most important aspect to consider is how much joy a toy brings you - and it’s no different in the variable world of dildos. Visual stimulation can be key to sexual pleasure for some, and if you hate looking at the toy you’re using it’s probably not for you.

Do you want something ultra realistic? Or something with fun colors?

Glass or metal based dildos are an excellent example - they can be gorgeous works of art that give you pleasure just by looking at them or holding them. Check out the Biird Polii for inspo. Its shiny surface is so yummy, and the added texture brings interesting variability. Plus - it’s excellent for g-spot stimulation!

Biird Polii Stainless Steel G-Spot Dildo

Finding the right dildo is a personal and often exploratory process—and that’s part of what makes it so fun. By considering material, shape, size, and how you might want to accessorize or use your toy - you’re investing in your pleasure, comfort, and self-connection. There’s no universal “best” option, only what works best for you.

So whether you’re experimenting for the first time or refining your collection, trust your instincts, stay curious, and don’t be afraid to try something new. The world of dildos is vast, diverse, and ready to meet you exactly where you are.