How to Choose Your First Penis Toy

How to Choose Your First Penis Toy

by Jacee Niblett - February 12, 2025

Picking out your first sex toy can be a mix of excitement, curiosity, and maybe a little uncertainty—especially when it comes to penis toys. There’s often an extra layer of stigma around these products, which can make the experience feel more intimidating than it needs to be.

But here’s the thing: exploring pleasure shouldn’t come with shame or embarrassment. In fact, it can be a fun, empowering act of self-care. Whether you’re looking to enhance solo play, explore new sensations, or even introduce a toy into partnered sex, adding a penis toy to your sexy toolkit can add so much to your experience.

So, to help take the guesswork (and any unnecessary awkwardness) out of the process, let’s break it down and make your first penis toy shopping experience easy, enjoyable, and totally stress-free.

Consider The Sensations

Just like with toys geared toward the vulva, penis toys come in a variety of different styles. You’ll want to consider exactly how you want your toy to work for you when shopping. Some toys suck, others stroke. Some are manual (meaning you are controlling it with your hand) while others are automatic (hands free!).

Take some time to think about your preferences, down to the mechanics. This will give you a good idea of what sensation you’re looking for in a toy and give you a great starting point when exploring options.

CalExotics Bionic Vibro Stroker with Oscillation and Suction

Basic Product Care

It’s important to know how to properly care for a sex toy of any variety - but it’s especially important for penis toys because some need a little more care than you might be expecting. Pay attention to the material and make sure you know the care procedure that’s best for that material.

For toys made from silicone, you’ll need a good toy cleaner and water - but some penis toys are made to resemble the vagina and are made from a soft, squishy material called cyberskin. This material needs to be fully dried after cleaning and requires an extra step of powdering to keep it smooth and fresh.

When in doubt, talk to any member of our staff for clarification and make sure you leave with all the necessary cleaning tools you need to make your experience the best it can be.

Main Squeeze The Virgin ULTRASKYN Stroker Pussy

Check Your Shame

Finally, the most important step to buying and enjoying your first penis toy is to try your best to check any shame at the door. It’s a completely understandable feeling to have, given how much messaging and taboo there is around this area of sexuality. The truth is, self pleasure is natural, normal, and healthy. Toys of any kind are just fun tools to aid in your experience.

So if you have the desire to try out a new experience in this way, remind yourself that you deserve to explore your sexuality in any way that feels good to you.

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Like any other sexual exploration journey involving toys, exploring penis toys is ultimately about enhancing pleasure, expanding your options, and embracing your sexuality without shame. By considering the sensations you’re looking for, learning how to care for your toy properly, and shifting any lingering stigma around using one, you’re setting yourself up for a fun and fulfilling experience.

Self-pleasure is valuable and valid, and there’s no right or wrong way to explore what feels good for you. So whether this is your first toy or just the first time you’re really thinking about it, enjoy the process—because pleasure, at its core, is something we are all worthy of experiencing.

So be safe, and have fun!