How to Find The Perfect Sex Toy For You

by Jacee Niblett -

Over the years, I’ve noticed that a lot of people tend to pick out a toy (usually a bullet vibrator, or an affordable internal dildo) earlier in life, and then stick with it until it breaks, whether they really like it or not!

Don’t get me wrong, if that bullet vibe is your jam then there’s no shame in keeping it around for the long haul. But if you’ve never fully considered your options, or what feels the best for you - I encourage you to expand your horizons and try new things.

Finding the right sex toy is a journey - but the good news is, it’s a fun one!

So keep reading for my tips on finding the perfect toy for you.

Start With General Preferences

I think lots of people stick to the basics because they don’t take the time to think deeper about their sexual preferences. We are largely taught to subdue this side of us, so just asking yourself simple questions about sex can feel taboo. But finding the perfect sex toy for you should start with whatever general preferences you already know you have. Do you normally prefer external stimulation on the clitoris or internal stimulation in the vagina? How about both at the same time? Do you prefer a stroking sensation on the penis or more of a suction? Usually you can turn to your typical masturbation habits for answers - and this is a great starting point in finding the perfect sex toy for you!

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Being open to exploration and trying new things is probably the most important tip in this article! It’s a simple concept, but if you aren’t open to experimenting with sex toys it’s going to be difficult to find the toy that really speaks to you. There are just so many options and variations out there to try, and you never really know how something is going to work until you try it. Of course, you don’t need to try everything - but leaving yourself open to different options and exploring what’s out there is the fun part!

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Invest in Quality

Like a lot of products that come in a variety, sex toys are going to work better and last longer when you invest in quality materials and brands. This doesn’t mean you have to purchase the most expensive vibrator on the shelf - but opting for something with a rechargeable battery or high quality silicone is going to get you farther in your journey. These toys tend to have stronger motors, more comfortable materials, and deliver better results. Considering these features, rather than just choosing the cheapest option available, will benefit you in the long run!

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Honor Your Pleasure

Finally, I encourage you to shift the way you think about shopping for pleasure products. Instead of viewing sex toys as frivolous or unnecessary - look at them as tools for your sexual pleasure. When we view our pleasure as unimportant we are more likely to accept toys and experiences that don’t actually feel good. Your pleasure is valuable and important, and you deserve tools that actually work for you.

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Once you find a toy that you really enjoy, it’s a game-changer. And you deserve endless sexual pleasure! So let’s put away shame, guilt, or any other preconceived notions about pleasure products and enjoy our bodies. You can shop a huge variety of products from our online inventory, or better yet - stop in to any of our physical locations to get that hands-on experience. We can’t wait to have you!

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