How to Choose a Sex Toy For Your Partner

How to Choose a Sex Toy For Your Partner

by Jacee Niblett - December 27, 2024

The holidays are here, and if you’re like the rest of us, you’re probably brainstorming gifts that are equal parts thoughtful and exciting. While I’m a firm believer that sex toys can be amazing presents, they’re not always the easiest thing to surprise your lover with. Getting it right matters—after all, you want them to truly enjoy and make the most of their new toy. To nail the perfect surprise, you’ll need at least some basic info about what they like (or might like). If you’re unsure, a great fallback is a gift card paired with a shopping trip together. That way, you can turn it into a romantic outing, and they get exactly what they want.

But if you want to really impress this holiday season, choosing the perfect toy on your own is absolutely doable. It just takes a little planning and thoughtfulness. So, let’s dive into some of my certified tips and tricks for picking out a sex toy for someone else!

Consider Their Habits

Check in with yourself about the sexual habits you notice from your partner. This is arguably the most important tip to keep in mind, because knowing what they generally like to do is going to radically inform your shopping process. Do they typically enjoy internal or external stimulation? This will point you toward either things like dildos, butt plugs, or toward things like strokers, vibrators, or suction toys. Also consider if they usually prefer a strong sensation or a gentle one - this can inform your choice even further once you’ve narrowed down your options.

Using basic information about your partner’s preferences like this will easily guide you toward better options from there.

CalExotics Boundless Grip Stroker

Get Something to Use Together

A super fun choice is always reaching for a couples toy. This gives you the option to explore and learn together! From double dildos to wearable vibrators to app controlled toys - you have so many choices to explore depending on your anatomy and desires.

This is an especially good choice if both you and your partner are newer to sex toys in general, because it really gives the gift of novelty and excitement on both ends. My personal pick? Something like the i.d bridge dual stim by Bodywand! It’s a wearable vibe that stimulates the clitoris during penetration - and it’s a great pick if you want to add some spice and stimulation to your partnered sexual experiences.

Bodywand i.D. Bridge Dual Stimulation Vibrator

Opt for User-Friendly

Finally, opting for something that’s user-friendly can go a long way in finding a solid option for a surprise gift. Consider things like battery, settings, materials, and lube-compatibility. In general, a rechargeable toy is going to be best practice, as well as a body-safe material that is compatible with your lube of choice. Silicone or glass are always a solid option, and always safe with water-based lube. Keep these general factors in mind and you can’t go wrong!

Bodywand My First 5 Inch Classic Vibe

Choosing the perfect sex toy for your lover can be a breeze if you keep the right things in mind. By considering their habits, picking something you can enjoy together, and opting for user-friendly toys, you’ll be well on your way to choosing something they’ll love and use often.

Remember, it’s all about the thought and care you put into the selection, and with these tips in mind, you can confidently choose a gift that’ll enhance your connection and spark some fun in the bedroom. Happy gifting, and here’s to a holiday season filled with pleasure and excitement!