3 Ways Sex Toys Aid in Sexual Healing

3 Ways Sex Toys Aid in Sexual Healing

by Jacee Niblett - March 4, 2024

At Excitement, we believe in more than just selling sex toys. Our core values include the promotion of sex positivity, sexual wellness, inclusivity, and love. Believe it or not, pleasure products play a role in all of these elements. They aren’t just frivolous, taboo products - they can be powerful tools in sexual healing.

As a Clinical Sexologist, I see the various struggles that humans go through in relation to their sexuality. While I know that sex toys don’t fix any and every problem we might face in our sexuality, I’ve seen the aid they can provide and the various ways in which a simple tool like a vibrator can open up a world of sexual wellness for someone.

In this article, I’ll give you some concrete examples of what I mean. So keep reading if you’re curious about sex toys as sexual healing tools!

Access to Pleasure & Orgasm

Orgasm is one of the biggest topics of sexual concern for people - especially women. Whether they struggle with having an orgasm in general, orgasms with a partner, or if they struggle with the orgasms they are having - the experience of orgasm as a whole can be an area of contention. This is why I talk about the idea of “access to orgasm” when it comes to sex toys. Because for people who struggle in this area, sex toys can sometimes offer them increased access to this experience.

This could look like using a sex toy during partnered sex and experiencing orgasm when previously you hadn’t been able to. Or it could look like using a sex toy during masturbation and teaching yourself how to have an orgasm for the first time.

In many ways, gaining this access to orgasm and sexual pleasure through sex toys can aid in a sexual healing journey.

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Sexual Communication in Relationships

Sex toys can also help couples communicate. Our sex-negative culture assigns certain scripts to sexual experiences. These scripts are often very cisheteronormative and while it can be argued that they are unrealistic - at the very least they are boring. We can get stuck in these scripts and roles when we don’t make it a habit to talk about sex. But when we introduce sex toys into our partnered sexual experiences, we are almost forced to start communicating if only because it’s a new experience.

Rather than following the same sexual routine, you get to play and learn new things about your partnered sexual experiences. “Do you like the vibrator here?” “How does the penis ring feel when I do this?”

Sexual communication is something that takes practice, and sex toys offer the perfect opportunity to give it a go!

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Working Through Shame

Sexual shame is pervasive - and frankly it affects us all. Shame shows up when we feel embarrassed, like we’re too much or not enough. It shows up when we turn off our erotic selves out of fear, or when we don’t allow ourselves to fully “go there.”

Sex toys offer an opportunity to break through this shame. When you shop for sex toys, you do it intentionally. You spend time thinking about what you’re looking for, shopping around, considering different options. This is dedicating time, energy and money to your sexual pleasure and that is a powerful tool against sexual shame. Using sex toys whether solo or with a partner, is a testament to your power and dedication to your own unique sexual pleasure and THAT is a powerful tool against sexual shame!

In this way, sex toys can aid in the healing journey of anyone working through shame around sex.

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Sexual healing is a unique and personal experience - there are so many more ways in which sex toys can aid you in your own journey. Did any of these topics resonate with you? If so, just know you aren’t alone and you aren’t broken.

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Be safe and have fun!